When in Doubt, It's a Maybe

There's a particular kind of stuck that happens holding an object you're not ready to decide about. Not the sofa — obviously keeping that. Not the broken umbrella — obviously not. Something in between. A jumper you haven't worn in two years but might. A gift from someone you love that you don't actually like. The stuck isn't about the object. It's about feeling like you're required to have a verdict, right now, one way or the other.

You're not.

Maybe is a real answer, not a failure to answer

Most systems for deciding what to keep only offer two options, dressed up in different language: keep it, or get rid of it. Both framed as a kind of test you either pass or fail. That's not how most real decisions actually feel, and pretending otherwise is exactly what makes deciding about your things feel so much heavier than it needs to.

Lagom's whole insight is that most worthwhile answers sit in the middle — not too much, not too little, just enough certainty for right now. "Maybe" isn't indecision. It's an honest, accurate answer for something that genuinely isn't settled yet, and treating it as a real, legitimate category — not a cop-out, not something to feel guilty about — is what actually lets you keep moving instead of freezing at the first hard item.

The relief of not needing to be sure yet

Give yourself the maybe. Put it down, move to the next thing, and trust that clarity about the harder items tends to arrive on its own time, not under pressure. You'll get to plenty of them. Just not by demanding a verdict from yourself on command.